Although I’m not on Snapchat, I’ve heard of the insanely comical and randomly epic snapchats that DJ Khaled creates. And, even though I don’t know anything about him other than the songs he produces (because he cleverly blends/yells his name into the hooks), I really like his snapchats.
He constantly speaks about ‘they’. What ‘they’ don’t want you to have. What ‘they’ don’t expect you to accomplish.
So after having a conversation with a friend about some people we interact with, I realized I want to add to DJ Khaled’s list in my own way. So, what else don’t ‘they’ want you to know?
‘They’ don’t want you to know that it’s pointless to complain.
We humans are a weird species. We are highly cognitive extremely emotional . Because of this, we sometimes do things that make us feel better but, at the same time, do nothing toward fulfilling our basic but most important needs.
A simple example is complaining. We can complain about anything and everything in every way. I’m not talking about sticking up for yourself when someone cuts the line in the morning at the coffee shop. And I’m not talking about rectifying poor service in a store. I’m talking about those things that we find out that cause us to jealously talk about someone for days or weeks with whoever will listen. Those things that we just don’t understand why someone else got them. Essentially, the long drawn out negative-what-did-they-do-to-deserve-that conversations about other people’s accomplishments that ultimately don’t help us move forward in our lives.
Just imagine, what your life would look like if you stopped complaining because you realized it didn’t give you food, shelter, or protection? Or money, companionship, or joy?
Your life would be more positive, right?
Maybe even happy.
I believe complaining feeds the addictive parts of our brain. We first do it because it makes us temporarily feel better. We continue to do it because we are unsuccessfully trying to replicate the feeling of the first time we complained when the people we love gave us attention, showed concern, and moved mountains to get rid of the reason behind our perceived need to complain.
Sadly, as we all know, eventually if we continue to complain, people stop helping and eventually stop listening.
So why not decide to stop complaining?
There is only one thing that complaining is guaranteed to bring you in the long run — nothing.
Absolutely and literally nothing. Not the husband. Not the new car. Not the promotion. Not the well-behaved child. In fact, complaining takes away from you the only true luxury in this world — time.
So the next time you see that newly engaged couple, friend who got his dream job, or neighbor whose daughter got into that prestigious STEM program, remind yourself of this truth: the only difference between you and them is that ‘they’ already know the truth about what complaining does and doesn’t do. With this knowledge in mind, ‘they’ have moved on to achieve bigger and better things because, if you never know this truth, ‘they’ have less competition.
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